A Letter to All Women: This is Your World Too 💌🦢

Hello my fairies, this post is for you🌸

Here is Seri 🙋🏻‍♀️

New here?

Let me introduce myself quickly :

I am a student, a dreamer, and someone who cherishes flowers, softness, and femininity. I have always felt a natural pull toward gentleness and the feminine world, even though it was not always easy to embrace.

Today, I can say that I love being a woman, but it took me a long journey to arrive here.

That's why, I want to speak to women, to those who have ever felt unsure of themselves or struggled with being a woman. I know it can sometimes feel like a long, confusing journey, a path where self-doubt or even self-hate can quietly follow you. I have walked that path myself.

In this post, I will first share my own experiences as a woman and how I slowly found a deep love and appreciation for my femininity. Then, I want to offer a letter I wrote to all women. A letter full of thoughts, reflections, and advice that I wish someone had given me, a letter meant to remind you of your worth, your strength, and the beauty of being who you are. I hope it will feel like someone gently speaking to you, guiding you through your own journey.

The teenage years 💌

When I was a teenager, I sometimes hated being a girl. The bleeding every month felt like a punishment. The thought of the pain of childbirth terrified me. The restrictions placed upon us made me feel trapped.

I often looked at boys and envied them for their freedom and possibilities.

On top of that came the weight of religions.

They taught that men were above, women were less, women were temptations, women were sinners, women were weaker, and women were more difficult.

All of this contributed to me being harsh with myself. It even made me hate being a woman, and sometimes hate other women too. There were moments where I preferred men’s company, because the world seemed built for them, while we were left with guilt and limits.

Leaving religion 💌

Leaving religion was more liberating than I could have imagined. I realized that many religions, not only the one I grew up with, placed women beneath men. Even Buddhism, which looks peaceful from the outside, teaches that a woman must be reborn as a man to reach Nirvana. Again and again, I found the same pattern: men written as higher, women written as lower.

At first, it was frightening, because I had been told for so long that without faith I would be lost, punished, or meaningless. But the opposite happened. For the first time, I felt free to look at the world with my own eyes.

I no longer wanted to live under ideas that told me I was born inferior. Stepping away from religion allowed me to see my life as mine, not as something designed to serve others.

Choosing women 💌

At university, I made a very intentional choice: I wanted to study surrounded only by women. At first, I could not fully explain why. I just felt it was something I needed, almost like an instinct. Looking back now, I see how important that decision was for my healing.

Being in classrooms and communities where there were only women changed something inside me. It softened a part of me that had been hardened by years of comparison, envy, and internalized misogyny. Instead of seeing women as competition or as reminders of restrictions, I began to see them as allies, companions, and mirrors. I saw their strength, their kindness, their intelligence, and their creativity.

Little by little, I started to feel proud to be one of them. I became curious about femininity in ways I never had before. I started to notice its beauty, not as something weak, but as something luminous and powerful. This choice, to surround myself with women, fixed something I did not even realize was broken.

It reawakened in me the truth that being a woman is not a curse, but a gift.

And I realized something that many people overlook: being surrounded by women is far more amazing than what the world makes it out to be. The world often jokes about women together as if it means jealousy, drama, or weakness. What I experienced was the opposite. I found sisterhood, support, and inspiration.

Being surrounded by women is truly extraordinary. It is not just comforting or nurturing. It is inspiring, energizing, and powerful. Women have a unique way of holding space, sharing wisdom, and supporting one another that heals in ways the world rarely notices. Simply being in that presence made me feel stronger, softer, and more myself at the same time.

Learning history and anthropology 💌

Through history and anthropology, I began searching for women in every story I read. Why are they missing from history books, from religious texts, from stories of the world? The answer became clear: they were not missing, they were erased. Women created, invented, ruled, healed, and dreamed. They contributed far more than we are taught to believe.

I also realized that women were not always devalued in every culture or every era. In some societies, they held great power and respect.

For example, in Ryukyuan society, women could inherit property, participate in decision-making, and even hold religious authority as priestesses. Their voices mattered, and their roles were central to the community. This shows that oppression was not inevitable.

Patriarchy was built gradually over time, for reasons of power and control, but it is not a natural or biological law.

Learning this was liberating. It helped me see that the limitations placed on women are not our fault, and that the strength, intelligence, and creativity of women have always existed, even if the world tried to hide it. Understanding this history made me feel part of a larger lineage of women who have shaped the world in ways that often go unseen.

Embracing womanhood 💌

As I grew older, I embraced being a woman fully.

I stopped being afraid of femininity.

I allowed myself to defend, to say no, to set boundaries, and to choose my own dreams.

For this, I have been insulted and called names.

Even in our generation, despite the rights and freedoms women have fought for, there are still debates about what women should do with their lives.

Women who choose not to study or not to work are often praised as “wife material” or seen as rare and amazing.

Meanwhile, women who want to study, work, or pursue careers still face criticism, judgment, and endless discussions about whether their choices are appropriate.

This isn’t only something men enforce. Many women, especially those from religious backgrounds, hold and repeat these same expectations.

I do not want to be submissive or obedient. I do not want my life shaped by the narrow expectations of others, whether they come from men, society, or religious norms. That almost cost me my life once. I only live once, and perhaps not even long, so I want to live for myself.

After all, I cannot imagine having to marry young just for the sake of marrying. Marrying only to marry has cost many women their lives and their freedom. I want to take my time. I want to be sure. I do not want regrets.

I also love being able to study because knowledge is amazing.

The more I learn about sciences or philosophy, the more I realize how important knowledge is. Even if I do not see myself working in these fields, being cultured is what allows us to set boundaries and understand the world.

I work because I love the job I chose. I want to be a floral designer, and yes, working under capitalism is not perfect, but the work itself is wonderful. When I grew up, I was encouraged to have a dream job. I cannot understand, now as an adult, the debate among women about whether they have to work. My dream job brings me joy and purpose. This may not be a job that saves lives, but it is a job that makes me happy. Why would I give up my dreams for people I do not even know? Even my dad and my grandpa encourage me to work. Their words alone are not the reason I do, but they remind me that my life should not be dictated by strangers. I will only live once, and I will not get another chance to experience life.

The price of speaking 💌

I am prepared now.

Prepared to be called a victim when I speak about what happens to women. Prepared to be told by men that women have it easy, as if that were revenge for something I cannot control.

Prepared to be labeled a misandrist, a feminist, or any other word used to shame me into silence, simply because I disagree with men.

This is not a fear or a possibility. It happens.

I have experienced it. Every time I refuse to follow opinions I do not share, these words are used against me.

Sometimes I wonder if I should just live the way they want me to. It would be easier. It might even feel peaceful. But peace without freedom is not living. It would not be me. I cannot accept a life dictated by others’ judgments, expectations, or labels.

Even if I am hated, even if I am misunderstood, I will not shrink to fit into someone else’s expectations. I will live fully, openly, and unapologetically. I will not allow their words to dictate my life. I will live my life as my own, because it is the only one I have, and I will not waste it trying to satisfy strangers.

✨ A Letter to Every Woman ✨

To my sisters,

You were already valuable the moment you took your first breath. Your worth does not need to be proven, earned, or measured against anyone else’s. Even if the world sometimes whispers that a boy would have been preferred, know this truth: your existence is not a mistake. You belong here.

This is not a man’s world. This is our world too. A shared one. Yours as much as anyone’s. You have the right to walk in it, speak in it, and breathe freely within it.

Strength is not only found in muscles or the act of building cities. Just because you are not “constructing” the world in visible ways does not mean you are undeserving of respect.

You may have been born in a body that is called softer, less outwardly strong but that softness is not weakness. It is its own form of power. It is the reason communities continue, why love still survives, why beauty exists alongside hardship.

You are not useless. You are not secondary. You are not less.

So walk gently, but with your head lifted. Take up space without apology. Trust that your existence alone is already enough.

My advices for women 💌

Advice 1: Value yourself at birth and always 🦢

From the moment you are born, you are valuable.

Your worth is not defined by others, by gender expectations, or by societal pressure. Being a woman is not a flaw, a limitation, or a punishment. Your body and mind have strengths that are uniquely yours, and they are real, measurable, and grounded in biology and psychology.

Biologically, women’s brains are designed to notice details, communicate, and connect. On average, women often integrate multiple perspectives, process emotions deeply, and understand the world in ways that are subtle but powerful.

Mentally, women tend to develop resilience, empathy, and the capacity to problem-solve even under difficult circumstances. Many learn to navigate challenges, adapt to constraints, and manage both their own emotions and the emotions of those around them.

Physically, women’s bodies are capable of endurance, flexibility, and recovery. Menstruation and the pain of childbirth are not punishments for being a woman or reminders of sin.

They are difficult, yes, but they have a clear biological purpose, and acknowledging that purpose allows you to respect your body without blaming yourself.

Spiritually and energetically, women often have heightened intuition, nurturing energy, and the ability to heal, observe, and adapt. These are not weaknesses. They are forms of real strength. Recognize them, honor them, and use them to guide your choices and protect your boundaries.

You are not less just because you are a woman. Your body, your brain, and your abilities work in ways that are real and useful every day.

We need to be honest and realistic, not just give comforting words.

Biologically and practically, women have strengths, but in many real-world situations—like violent attacks or extreme danger—women are often more vulnerable because men are generally stronger physically. That is reality.

The point isn’t to pretend women are as strong as men in every sense. It’s to acknowledge the types of strength women do have: awareness, strategy, resilience, courage, adaptability, and the ability to use tools, skills, or allies to protect themselves. These strengths matter, but they don’t erase the fact that society and the world can be unsafe, and women need to be realistic, cautious, and prepared.

Women don’t need to be the strongest in the sense of physical power to be strong.

Strength can mean:

🪽Knowing how to protect yourself effectively

🪽Making decisions that keep you safe

🪽Using your intelligence, awareness, and strategy in difficult situations

🪽Being resilient and persistent even when the world underestimates or challenges you

Women are strong not just because of specific skills or awareness, but also because they endure—through hardships, societal pressures, work, emotional labor, and personal challenges—just like everyone else who survives and navigates life.

Endurance is a form of strength that is practical, real, and vital. Combined with the ability to protect themselves, set boundaries, and make decisions, it makes women strong in ways that matter in the real world, even if they are not physically the strongest.

Advice 2: Take your time in life choices 🦢

On marriage, work, studies, and motherhood. Don’t rush because society or family tells you to. If you rush, you might regret it later. Take time to mature and be sure of yourself. Yes, marriage and motherhood can be beautiful, but so many women have lost their lives by rushing into them or being pressured. Take your time, reflect, and make decisions when you are truly ready.

Advice 3: It's okay to be feminine 🦢

It's okay to adore pink or cute things. Because girls, for example like me, who like cute things or pink can feel ashamed. Being too feminine used to be called childish, so some want to be the opposite, as a defiance. But we can wear dresses, be modest, and it doesn't mean we agree with patriarchy.

Femininity isn't equal to being conservative or giving the vibe of being fragile.

It's okay also to be feminine in a different way.

You can have short hair, wear what you like, or enjoy the same things men enjoy. Being a woman isn’t fixed. It can mean many different things, and you get to decide what it means for you.

Advice 4: Learn, read, and expand your mind 🦢

Knowledge empowers you 📚

It helps you set boundaries, understand the world, and make decisions for yourself. Being cultured is a tool for mental independence and self-respect. Even if you don’t want to work because it’s not your thing, knowledge is never useless.

Oh, and by the way....

... working is amazing. Don’t put down women who prefer working. They contribute to our society. All the nurses, midwives, female gynecologists, and many others are working for you, so be grateful for their effort and dedication.

Advice 5: Set boundaries and say no 🦢

You don’t owe anyone your obedience, approval, or compliance. Saying no is not selfish; it’s necessary to survive and protect yourself.

Some women prefer being submissive and obedient, and that’s okay too as long as it’s truly their choice. But don’t put down women who see life differently. It’s not in our biology to be submissive; it is a culture. You have the right to live differently and make your own rules for your life.

Advice 6: Surround yourself with supportive women 🦢

Female circles can be healing, inspiring, and empowering. They are more extraordinary than society admits. Yes, women in patriarchal societies are often put in competition with each other, but that’s not natural.

In nature, women are often allies.

It will be possible again if women accept that other women can be different, even if men dislike it or feel threatened. Support each other, celebrate each other’s choices, and build spaces where women can grow together.

Advice 7: Do not accept oppression as normal 🦢

Patriarchy and societal pressure are not natural or inevitable. Recognize them and resist them.

You have the right to travel, study, work, and marry later if you choose. You have the right to make your own decisions and to live without constantly bending to expectations that do not belong to you.

Advice 8: Follow your passions and dreams 🦢

Whether it’s a job, art, or study, do what makes you happy. Your life is yours; don’t give up your dreams for strangers. Some women want to be only mothers and serve their husbands, and that’s okay if it’s truly their choice. But life is full of amazing experiences beyond that.

Art is incredible. 🎨

Instruments are amazing. 🎻

Sports are fun. ⛸️

Let women see there’s more to life than just being wives and mothers.

I personally love figure skating, pottery, and traveling.

I can’t imagine dropping those passions just because I’ve been told my purpose is only to stay at home.

Advice 9: Be ready for criticism and labels 🦢

People will judge, mock, or misinterpret your choices.

Be ready to be called feminist, misandrist, or have people make assumptions about your personal life. Accept that this comes with disagreeing with patriarchy, harmful cultures, and religions. Their opinions do not diminish your worth. It’s hard to face, but it’s harder to live a life you hate. Remember: you only live once, and you won’t get a second chance.

My fairy.... 🧚🏼‍♀️

Being a woman is a journey, full of challenges, doubts, and moments where the world may try to tell you who you should be. But it is also a journey of discovering your strength, your beauty, and your own path. I hope my experiences, this letter, and the advice I shared remind you that you are valuable, worthy, and capable, exactly as you are.

Take your time, honor your feelings, embrace your femininity in your own way, and follow your dreams. Surround yourself with those who lift you up, and never accept limitations that are not yours to carry.

You are not just living in this world, you have the right to shape it, in your own way, in your own time. And though the path may be hard, it is yours, and it is precious.